“I Feel Like I Might Be Too Darn Old For This”
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We all get this thought, every once in a while, during random everyday actions, and that’s ok. But when it comes to dating, love and happiness, it’s never ok to think your age is something that should hold you back. People deserve to have fun and be happy at every age!
It often happens that people find themselves confused after a long marriage, or after a long period of solitude. At these times, they sometimes think dating, and all of its components, are more for younger people who have the nerves for the dating game.
In most cases, these are all excuses we make up for ourselves, while the truth is we’ve been living in our comfort zone for too long, and we don’t feel like getting out of it. Meeting someone new and adapting to a new character, a new life and a whole new person means stepping out of our own little world and getting a taste of someone else’s world. This might come off scary and, sometimes, it can seem downright exhausting. The easiest way of avoiding all the stress you think is coming, is to say ‘I’m too old for this!’
But… you aren’t too old. You’re just comfortable in your cocoon and you might be just a little bit scared of the outcome.
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You see happy couples on TV and of course you yearn for that kind of a relationship, but then you convince yourself relationships are just for young people, and you think about your children or grandchildren, you create the worst scenarios in your head: “What would they say, will I be embarrassed?” Chances are you feel embarrassed just by thinking about it, right?
If this sounds like you, then the most important thing you should work on is your confidence. Until you build it up, you won’t be ready for a new relationship. And there’s no better time for starting to work on it then right now!
The best way to do it is to start socializing more than you used to. Go out with friends, join a class of any kind, and meet new people. These people don’t have to be your potential dates, you just need to feel good about yourself while you’re out having fun, and you need to learn to have fun again in general. You need that amazing feeling you get when you try something new and then realize you truly enjoy it.
Once you are done working on your spirit, it’s a good time to take a look at the mirror. And this doesn’t only go for ladies. Gentleman, pay attention!
If you’ve been out of the game for a while, it’s completely normal for you to look like less of a catch. Make a little effort and make yourself look the best you can. Take a look at this article and discover How To Become A Better Catch!
Stop coming up with excuses for yourself and start living your life to the fullest. Don’t waste precious years on loneliness and feeling sorry for yourself. You are a magnificent person, and such a gem needs to shine – so let yourself shine!